It feels easy. That's not to say that the work we do will be easy, it will be challenging. But the only way you will grow is by continuing to face your fears and push yourself out of your comfort zone--two things you will do a lot of.
What I mean by easy is that you will FEEL at ease with me, like that one friend you have that even though you may not see each other or speak often, you always feel comfortable around them. No judgement, no shame.
My main goal as a coach--the goal that encompasses self-confidence, purpose, relationships and anything else I may help you with--is getting you to feel like you're enough.
Like you're good enough exactly as you are, nothing more and nothing less.
Not from the outside in, but from the inside out.
Not feeling good enough is a feeling that I dealt with for a very long time, and I still go back to that feeling from time to time.
But the transformation and power that arise when you truly, deeply begin to believe in yourself and believe that you are good enough is like nothing you will ever experience.
My goal is to get you to that place.
I first looked into becoming a coach because I wanted to help myself. I was exhausted of feeling sorry for myself and I was desperate for a change.
After my professional sports career came to an inevitable--but unexpected--end, I was lost, scared and had no purpose.
I was dealing with all kinds of emotions: fear, insecurity, doubt, shame, anger, pain, unworthiness, embarrassment, feelings of failure and feelings of not good enough.
But, because I'm a man and I'm expected to just "man up" and figure it out, I suppressed these emotions and stuffed them way deep down instead of using them to help me figure out my life.
What simultaneously happened as I was suppressing these emotions, was that I was also suppressing who I really was. I was pretending to be someone I wasn't because the truth of being the real me was too painful to bear--and in the process I hurt a lot of people.
One day, after a long, deep, vulnerable conversation with a good friend, I finally decided it was time to take responsibility for my life and my decisions.
When I began to open up about who I really was and what I was dealing with, I stumbled upon one of the greatest realizations of my life: I'm not alone.
Knowing that I'm not alone has given me strength, strength to show up in the world as I really am--flaws and all.
Knowing that I'm not alone makes me want to reach out a helping hand to others who are going through the same things I've been through, because I know how miserable it can be and I know how beneficial a genuine helping hand can be.
Coaching with me will fill you with that same strength, the strength to be authentically you.
There is nothing more powerful than a human being who knows who they truly are, is okay with that, and isn't afraid to show it to the world.
Coaching with me will make you believe you're good enough just as you are, and when you reach that belief the sky is the limit.
“When I started working with Christian as my life-coach I wasn’t sure what to expect. I have sought out more traditional routes of self-help like therapy for nearly a decade or more, but they did not provide me with or allow for the kind of reflection Christian’s coaching/guidance has. I was nervous also going into this. I wasn’t sure if I expected a drill sergeant or for someone to belittle me in order to provoke me to ‘improve’. I didn’t get that with Christian though. From our first call to discuss what I wanted from the experience of working with him, it felt natural. He gave me a sense that he could guide me in the right direction but as a mentor and something far more friendly than a drill sergeant. I knew I could trust him and felt at ease and that made it easier for me to be honest with both him and myself about what I wanted to improve or focus on in myself. Christian taught me something that the routes of help I had sought after before did not: I was in control of me. Not my friends or parents or even my own past or failures. Me, right now in the current and present, is the only one who can shape the future that I want. After a few weeks of working with Christian I am glad and grateful for this new found attitude that is taking me forward. Having to be honest with myself and set out on a path that I know feels right and true for the person I intend to be. It feels freeing after years of self-doubt and holding myself back from the things that I know I want and need in order to make myself and others around me happier." -Julia M.