Coaching is an equal partnership so coaching with me always feels like you’re the expert on you, because you are! I hold the container of our time together without judgement and with curiosity, care, and tender accountability. You show up with what’s alive for you, your strengths, and the wisdom you’ve gained. You’ll feel like you can bring your whole self to every session. We stay in the present moment and look forward.
I’m dedicated to accompanying you towards who you want to be, how you want to be with yourself and with others, and what you want to create in your life. That’s where we’ll go.
Years ago I heard someone say that we give away that which we want most in our lives. From a young age, I was involved in social activism and community development. In my early 20s, I started to ask “What’s a good life? Why am I the way I am? Why is the world the way it is?” Small questions, of course. My inquiry carried me to anthropology, international development, and living abroad. Since then I’ve been profoundly shaped and informed by my close relationships with individuals and communities in the Bolivian Andes, such as La Comunidad Uywana Wasi.
I became interested in the ways we live our lives by stories. I started to see that nothing is real in the world except the meaning we give to it through our story of it - is that mountain a living spirit or is it a dead pile of rocks? I started to learn about the stories that I lived by, the stories I was taught through the culture, society, and systems I grew up in. I came to see that these stories are capsules for the way in which I am in relationship to everything here - myself, family, friends, race, class, gender and sexuality, land, ancestors, plants, animals, food, community… And that there are unconscious assumptions I was taught and never questioned. Until I could see the assumptions and question them. Then I learned that if we live our lives by stories, we can change our lives by changing the stories we tell and embody—we can decolonize our minds, bodies, and spirits and learn other ways of being.
This prompted me to pursue multimedia storytelling at a New Media Photojournalism grad program, because I was interested in how we change the collective stories we live by and be part of new stories for lives of greater well-being, humanity, and connection with the natural world.
Since then, I’ve had multiple awakenings and one rock bottom. My survival strategies and patterns caught up with me and started to sabotage me. I’ve learned about somatics, emotional hygiene, non-violent communication, mysticism and mythology, and ritual and ceremony. I continue to see and learn about my unconscious, from assumptions about the external world to the personal trauma and survival narratives I’ve developed throughout my life. And I continue to work on myself, re-ritualizing my life and transforming the way in which I’m in relationship to parts of myself, community, nature, and animals.
That which I want most in my life is and has always been love and connection, a world of renewed love and connection. I became a coach to accompany others in what many a guide, teacher, and elder have accompanied me in. I want to embody the world that I long for and to experience greater well-being and flourishing in my life. I know others want this, too. We’re part of something new that is emerging— a new culture where other ways of being are possible.
“Carey is a wonderful Coach who is a master at creating space for the client. She is safe and open and easy going. She doesn’t ever pretend to have the answers, but is so willing to share her vast knowledge and experience and insights in a very gentle and thoughtful way. Both sessions I have been coached by Carey I left feeling like she really saw me, and she really cared, and she had insights that stuck with me long afterwards. She leaves a mark on me because of her kindness and thoughtfulness and genuine curiosity. She is the opposite of pretentious. She is a very bright light and I know she will help many people with her coaching style and personality.” -Debra A.
“Carey’s question around “what gives me energy” was a moment in the conversation that allowed me to shift perspectives and have a few “A-ha” moments. This was a different way to reflect on what my next career move should be, and really forced me to think about what is important to me. I also had an “A-ha” moment when we discussed journaling. The thought of externalizing all my thoughts about my professional life, and thinking about what that looks like on paper, gave me a sense of relief. I could tell that Carey knew I had a lot to say about this particular step, so this just felt like the next step and “homework” felt very achievable.” -Malyssa C.
“Carey made me feel understood for the first time in a long time in handling stress from my father and living home, specifically handling my anger and emotions towards him. I always feel like no one understands what it's like to have a crazy parent. Just the way Carey held space for me, made me feel heard for the first time.” -Pam D.
“Carey helped me to talk about my negative feelings toward my financial planner and she recognized I was coming from a place of judgement that I didn’t even realize. She introduced me to a process of “transforming judgements into needs”. With her guidance I was able to discover that my judgement was coming from a place of distrust and what I really need in a financial planner is to be able to trust them. She was able to keep us focused and on track during my session. I felt like I had already hashed out the issue with the financial planner but she was able to zero in on something I hadn’t even thought of. As an aspiring coach, I admire the calm, easy way she holds the space, listens intently and blows me away with her insight.” -Kathy K.
“I really appreciate Carey’s support and generosity. She helped me remember to stay connected to myself as much as I can and find ways to nurture/support myself. It's interesting because I've been practicing staying self connected for quite a while and I forgot during this coronavirus experience! I've been feeling much more grounded and less anxious.” -Deb B.