The Everything Life Coaching Podcast, featuring JRNI Coaching founders John Kim and Noelle Cordeaux is a deep dive into the experience and business of being a life coach. In this episode of the Everything Life Coaching Podcast, we discuss the most important coaching skill of all time. Subscribe to get all our episodes!
Ever wondered what is the most important coaching skill?
Listening is the most important coaching skill AND the most important human skill. And no, most of us don’t really know how to listen. There are techniques for listening better; listening is a lot more than what’s on the surface. It’s so common to interrupt someone. The more you do it, the more confidence, the more ego, the more you think you know… and as a coach, you always have to be a student when you’re coaching.
How to listen more deeply?
Coaching is a discipline based on mutual connection and trust and the purpose of it is to strategize with your client. If you’re not able to fully hear your client, you won’t be able to be a good partner in strategy. So in order to know HOW to listen, you must develop this skill: surrendering.
The act of surrender and suspending your life in the moment to really drop down into a state of mindfulness and mindful listening. When you’re listening mindfully, you’re listening completely to the other person. You’re surrendering your own ego, your own agenda, your own knowledge to truly hear somebody else.
Understanding mindful listening
Mindful listening has a lot to do with building your self-regulation muscle or knowing when to push and when to pull and when to be still. It comes in when you set the focus on yourself aside. The benefit here is inner stillness. When we remove ego, we create the space of the clear and energized mind and this creates freedom for both coach and client.
Why Coaches Should Develop Mindful Listening
The purpose of developing your listening skill as a coach is so you don’t focus on the content of the dialog but on working and cultivating mindfulness. When we’re engaging in the practice of deep listening for the purpose of becoming better coaches, the content of the dialogue will be what it is. We’re two humans engaging in a strategy.
But you as a coach are working with a subset of muscles to cultivate this mindfulness in addition to your coaching practice. People thrive when they know they’re fully heard and seen. And this is exactly how you want your clients to feel.
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